The day I left him: an Israeli tale of bravery and self-discovery

Young, beautiful Zo Flamenbaum found herself stuck in an unhealthy codependent relationship. She hated how he treated her, how he treated her friends, how she felt around him. But she still couldn’t leave. This was not run-of-the-mill boyfriend girlfriend stuff. In this video, she talks about the courage it took for her to walk away from an emotional dependency and take back her life after so long.

In her video, Zo talks about dealing with dependency, bad relationships, depression and meds and finding the bravery to face how disconnected she was from herself.

Using her experiences, Zo now empowers thousands of women to find their inner strength and happiness with her organization School of Shine, a women’s wellness community dedicated to helping women in Israel and around the world lead happier, healthier lives. Check it out at schoolofshine.com

“If I am not for me, who is for me? And if I am (only) for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?”

Hillel, Ethics of the Fathers 1:14​

This video raises important conversations around codependency, recognizing the signs of an unhealthy relationship, the reality of physical versus emotional dependency and controlling relationships, and the right time to take antidepressant medication. Zo realized that what she needed was not antidepressant meds, but for many people that is the right choice. Let us know what you think in the comments and let’s have a conversation about this!

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